Published March 2026 with NewsCanada
A parent’s aging can prompt difficult conversations around their independence and living situation. Through planning or just circumstance, you may also find yourself taking care of the person who used to take care of you. Here are a few things to consider as you take on this new role:
- This will be an adjustment for both of you. It may be difficult for you and your parent to adjust to this role reversal. Even if you’ve been independent for years, being your caregiver is still likely a significant part of your parent’s life experience. Becoming their caregiver is a major life change and a rearrangement of your priorities. It’s a sacrifice, and it’s alright to acknowledge that to yourself.
For parents, adjusting to a loss of mobility or independence may not be easy. Everyday actions and activities that never used to take any thought might now be difficult. Some parents may feel embarrassed at needing help with things they’re used to doing on their own. - There’s help for you and your parent. You don’t have to do this alone. One option for support is engaging with an occupational therapist. They’re health care professionals who work with you to help you and your parent develop new skills and ways of adapting to your environments and circumstances. In this province, they have professional standards they’re held to and must be licensed by the College of Occupational Therapists of Ontario, a public resource that’s there for you and the one you’re caring for.
- It’s important to practice self-care, too. Many people in the “sandwich generation,” caring for both their children and parents, are under tremendous stress. Even if you don’t have children, caregiving still takes a great deal of time and effort, and can cause stress.
That’s why it’s important to look after yourself. By making time for self-care, you’re able to better show up for your parent. Consider taking advantage of available community and health resources to support your mental health and help you build strategies to manage your multiple roles.
It’s important to remember that this stage of life is a transition, not a decline. Feeling supported can make the transition easier. With some help to adapt their living space to their needs and develop new skills, your parent can keep doing the things they love. You can learn more about how a licensed occupational therapist can help at coto.org/ot.